![]() The second step relates to whether you handle money as partners or competitors. Getting a proper perspective on money is the first step to solving financial conflicts. Money was designed to be our servant, never our master. It’s to be used to build our marriage and family and to honor God.(Joe Gatuslao, Bacolod City, Philippines) Marriage demands commitment, and apart from sexual fidelity, nothing is more important than maintaining commitment to each other when it comes to what we do with our money. Hidden beneath the surface usually lies the iceberg of selfishness. When money is a problem in a marriage or a family, I’ve discovered that the financial problems are usually just the tip of the iceberg. Money is amoral -neither good or evil in itself.(Dr David Stoop and Dr Jan Stoop, from the book, “The Complete Marriage Book”) One of the prerequisites for partnering in the matter of money is an understanding of the meaning of money to each of us. Money only becomes our friend if we as a couple learn to partner around the decisions related to money. Money may be an inanimate object, but we attach great emotional significance to it. Money matters in a marriage relationship.(Dave Ramsey, from the article, “The Truth About Money and Relationships”) ![]() I’m not talking about agreement brought on by surrender, but rather by each person getting a vote, understanding the other’s view, and finding common ground. But if this is a real problem area for you, there is also an opportunity to improve your relationship and maybe even reach agreement with your spouse. So if you are married and have money fights, you are normal. Larry Burkett, noted financial author, says, “Money is either the best or the worst area of communication in our marriages.” After years as a financial counselor and working with marriage counselors, I know that money and money fights are the #1 cause of divorce, not to mention the thing we fight about the most. You can’t have a great relationship until you can communicate and agree about money.(James and Audora Burg, from the article “Marriage Matters: Copping a ‘Habitude'”) And many people are utterly unaware of their habitudes, attitudes they internalized during the growing-up years: for one, money may represent security, for another it may be about control, and for another, money is the key to power, or freedom. It seems common sense to say that paper currency and coins are not themselves the root of the troubles, but it’s the underlying habits and attitudes, or “habitudes,” that drive how those financial instruments are used, or misused, spent or saved. For richer or poorer, money is a key spark in couple conflict. What’s the most common argument among married couples? Educated guesses might name sex, money, or kids.He who trusts in his riches will fall, but the righteous will flourish like the green leaf (Proverbs 11:28).We hope you will find them to be helpful! The following are quotes from various resources on the subject of Finances as they pertain to marriage.
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